I am reading Ashley Judd’s memoir, All That is Bitter & Sweet. I have been a big fan of her acting work, and now learning more about her international humanitarian work – Amazing and inspiring. And she is childfree – Early on in the book she describes why she chose not to have children…
“…the fact is I have chosen not to have children because I believe children who are already here are really mine, too. I do not to go making “my own’ babies when there are so many orphaned or abandoned children who need love, attention, time, and care.
I have felt this way since I was at least eighteen and I had an argument about it with a childhood friend. He maintained that people with our genes and opportunities are the very people who should have kids;’ I countered that folks with our awareness and ability to contribute should instead focus on the children already born and suffering so needlessly.
I figured it was selfish for us to pour our resources into making our ‘own’ babies when those very resources and energy could not only help children already here but through advocacy and service transform the world into a place where no child ever needs to be born into poverty and abuse again. My belief has not changed. It is a big part of who I am.”
Talk about an enlightened, post-pronatal view!
What if more people had this view about children? Think how much better the world would be.
One does not need to be a movie star – humanitarian to devote resources, time and energy to help children already here.
She is very involved with Population Services International. I have a goal of becoming involved in global birth control access efforts, and the more I read about her work, the more I am inspired to take action to find my way of plugging in to this important issue.
Are you childfree and resonate with Ms. Judd’s view on children? Please share.
Childfree and involved in helping children already here? Let’s hear your stories….