In the book, 30 Lessons For Living:Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans, author Karl Pillemer tells us what he learned from surveys and interviews of over 1500 of elder Americans, 65 and older. He calls them our “experts.” He ends with a section that encourages us to find the wisdom in people we know and gives questions to ask of “experts” in our lives. When I meet “experts” who are childfree, I like to do the same; in this case, with a childfree theme. One great “elder” I’ve met in this regard is… Continue reading “Words From the Wise Childfree”
One of the many ways being childfree has been criticized relates to how it contributes to falling birthrates. Some experts think that low birthrates are not good for the future of countries, or the world, for that matter. Why? Because there will be too many old people. As Bryan Walsh on Times’s Ecocentric blog writes, Continue reading “Falling Birthrates, More Elderly – An Opportunity?”
In the same edition of TIME as the article on living alone as “the new norm,” there’s another one that got me thinking about childfree applications. This one is on “niche aging.” Fast forward to your retirement (ok, that might seem far away but from On-the-Ground question responses, many think way ahead about this!) with this idea… Continue reading “Retired Niche Living – What Would the Childfree Version Look Like?”
Reading “The Grief of Childlessness” by Samantha Schoech got me thinking about how we’ve come to commonly define “childless “and “childless by circumstance.” Who are the childless? Typically we are talking about those who want biological children…. Continue reading “Rethinking What It Means to be Childless and Childless by Circumstance”
I think the better question is, Why is the “baby-having drive” of some people at midlife so strong? Part of the answer is related to a quote early in the article; 54 year old John says to 47 year old Ann: “You have the body of a young girl. You need a baby.” First, a few numbers… Continue reading “The Age of First Motherhood is Rising, But Why at 50+?”
I recently asked childfree author Molly Peacock if she would answer few questions about her writing she’d be willing to share here. Thankfully she agreed! She is a poet, and author of a memoir and an upcoming biography of an amazing woman from the 18th century–with no children.
I asked her how being childfree influenced her story in her memoir, Paradise, Piece by Piece, how it has shown up in her poetry, and how it influenced the life of Mary Delaney, the subject of her upcoming release, The Paper Garden… Continue reading “The Writing of Childfree Author Molly Peacock”
I recently attended a “celebration of life” service for my friend Paula’s partner. Paula is my 70+ year old childfree friend I met through our mutual interest in art deco. She has very little family, and have to admit I wondered now that the love of her life Bill had died, how she’ll fare being alone. Then an interesting number of things came my way. Continue reading “Childfree Wisdom and Resilience in Later Life”
And the last area from Pew Research’s latest study on women and childlessness: Comparing childless women with those who have borne children. The study looked at differences in marriage, education, and race. “There are dramatic differences by marital status .. Continue reading “New Data on Childlessness Part V: Comparing Childless Women with Mothers”
On to Part IV of new data on the numbers of childless women put out by the Pew Research Center, (based mainly on combined 2006-2008 data from the June fertility supplement of the Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey). Next: marital status.
Pew breaks women into the “ever married” category to include those who are married now or at some point in the past, and those who have never been married. There’s some interesting results for each… Continue reading “New Data on Childlessness Part IV: Marital Status”
Now on to Part III regarding new data on the numbers of childless women put out by the Pew Research Center, (based mainly on combined 2006-2008 data from the June fertility supplement of the Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey). Next: Race and Ethnicity.
In 1998, a census study reported that percent of childlessness for white and black women aged 40-44 that had ever been married was.. Continue reading “New Data on Childlessness Part III: Race & Ethnicity”