Being Told You’ll Change Your Mind -Let’s Put it to Rest!

Slate recently asked to hear from the childfree who are happy, and they have been posting on what they’ve received. “Combing through the nearly 300 submissions”, one of the posts talked about how “a constant refrain jumps out: People with kids do not believe people without kids when they say they will never have kids.” I want to put this notion to rest, but before I do… Continue reading “Being Told You’ll Change Your Mind -Let’s Put it to Rest!”

Cringe-worthy Things to Say to the Childfree

In my interview for an article in womansday on what not to say to the childfree, writer Charlotte Lavala asked me about “cringe-worthy” things women can say to their childfree woman friends. I gave her a boatload of ideas, and a couple landed in the article.Here is more of what I told her: Continue reading “Cringe-worthy Things to Say to the Childfree”

3 Favorite Strategies for Answering the Infamous Question: Why Don’t You Want Kids?

One of the challenges the childfree talk about is how not to get defensive when asked by people they don’t know (or don’t know well) why they don’t want kids. Here are my three favorite strategies: Continue reading “3 Favorite Strategies for Answering the Infamous Question: Why Don’t You Want Kids?”

What the Childfree Have in Common with Introverts

Time magazine has had an interesting article about “The Upside of Being an Introvert.”  The article did not speak to it, but reading it brought to mind how some childfree hypothesize that there are more introverts than extraverts who are childfree.  In my experience the jury is out on that. Whether more childfree are introverts or not, I noticed  things the article spoke to that the childfree have in common with introverts… Continue reading “What the Childfree Have in Common with Introverts”

What the Childfree and the Done At Ones Have in Common

A regular commenter here at La Vie Childfree recently wrote me about the top five bingos she has received as a “Done at One.” They are more related to what’s behind a lot of bingos the childfree get than you might think. Check it out. Continue reading “What the Childfree and the Done At Ones Have in Common”

Childfree Prime Minister Julia Gillard Takes Satirical Heat

Julia Gillard has taken some heat for not having children by choice, and now it’s her sex life that is being satirized. In a recent segment on the Australian comedy show At Home With Julia, there is a controversial scene in which the Gillard character and her partner appear in her office, “post-coital, naked under an Australian flag.” This kind of scene got me thinking… Continue reading “Childfree Prime Minister Julia Gillard Takes Satirical Heat”

Do the Childfree Have Chore Wars?

Time magazine recently did an interesting article on the latest on married couples’  “chore wars.”   The gist: for couples with and without children, there is more of a domestic chore balance than ever before.  Why?  Research from the Pew Research Center point to the reason that … Continue reading “Do the Childfree Have Chore Wars?”

Do The Childfree Have a Distinct Wanderlust?

Any childfree person should know about sociologist Jean Veevers. She was a pioneer in the study of the childfree, or “voluntary childlessness” as it was called back then. Even in the 70s, she was writing about how the voluntary childless was a “neglected area of study.” Check out some of what she did find in her research.  Continue reading “Do The Childfree Have a Distinct Wanderlust?”