To Kid Or Not To Kid

The Premiere of the Documentary Film, To Kid Or Not To Kid, by Maxine Trump

Last weekend I was in New York at DOC NYC, the largest documentary film festival in the United States! I attended the premiere of the documentary film, To Kid Or Not To Kid by filmmaker Maxine Trump. The film follows Maxine’s personal journey of moving through her decision to live childfree.   Continue reading “The Premiere of the Documentary Film, To Kid Or Not To Kid, by Maxine Trump”

RBG

On RBG, and a Final Frontier for Equal Treatment

The new documentary on Ruth Bader Ginsburg, RBG, is a must-see.  As The Economist piece, “How Ruth Bader Ginsburg became a trailblazer for gender equality” summarizes, this film gives us a real feel for how “Ms. Ginsburg built America’s gender equality standards brick by brick,” and “the quieter parts of this remarkable justice’s life.” Continue reading “On RBG, and a Final Frontier for Equal Treatment”

guilt

The Childfree, Childless & Guilt

Reading “Let’s hear it for the single, childless women: We get tired too,” by Mika Sarmiento got me thinking, especially when she writes about a “specific kind of guilt that comes with talking about sleepless nights and long days with said great wives and mothers.” What’s behind this particular kind of guilt? Continue reading “The Childfree, Childless & Guilt”

To Baby or Not to Baby

Advice on the “To Baby or Not to Baby” Question

A recent “Ask Polly” on The Cut shocked me.  A woman writes in with the question, “Should I have a baby?” and even though Polly assures readers the “column is not a parody,” I admit I read the response more than once to be sure her advice actually seemed serious.  Continue reading “Advice on the “To Baby or Not to Baby” Question”

maternal instinct

On the Myth of Maternal Instinct

In my 2017 childfree trending piece, I discuss how in recent years we’ve been seeing more talk about pronatalism. Some articles use the word directly, some not. An excellent feature article that appeared on money.good.is magazine last fall by Mike Mariani gives us a great example of the latter. Continue reading “On the Myth of Maternal Instinct”

Lilli Blackmore

Riffing on Childfree Lilli Blackmore’s, “Why Having Kids Is Not A Retirement Plan”

I have been enjoying Lilli Blackmore’s posts on her site, the American Spinster. Her most recent post, “Why Having Kids Is Not a Retirement Plan” inspires me to riff on this important topic. Please indulge me. Continue reading “Riffing on Childfree Lilli Blackmore’s, “Why Having Kids Is Not A Retirement Plan””

moral duty

Not Having Kids: From Moral Outrage toward Moral Duty

One particular phrase relating to a study that came out last spring continues to pop up online: moral outrage. The study, “Parenthood as a Moral Imperative? Moral Outrage and the Stigmatization of Voluntarily Childfree Women and Men” has a finding that not having children by choice “inspires moral outrage in others.” While the study’s author Leslie Ashburn-Nardo acknowledges “mean levels of moral outrage were small overall” and it can be argued that the media have overblown this finding, it’s worth asking why people can feel morally outraged by the childfree. Here are two big reasons why. Continue reading “Not Having Kids: From Moral Outrage toward Moral Duty”