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Vicki Larson & I Talk Childfree “Gray Divorce”

As Vicki Larson, author of The New “I Do”, was reading Avivah Wittenberg-Cox’s Late Love: Mating in Maturity, she noticed that when the author talks about her “gray divorce” – her divorce after 22 years of marriage, “one thing kept coming up” as a good time to start anew. Her children had left home or were about to, and “she talks as if that’s the scenario for all 50-somethings.” Continue reading “Vicki Larson & I Talk Childfree “Gray Divorce””

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The 1st Conference of its Kind: The Not Mom Summit 2015

A first-ever conference is happening this Friday and Saturday: The Not Mom Summit. Spearheaded by Karen Malone Wright who runs the site The Not Mom, it is the first time women without children by choice, chance or circumstance will gather for presentations, discussions, and connection. I am excited to be part of it!

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Recent Research on Childlessness in Australia

Dr. Bronwyn Harman, psychology and social science professor at Perth’s Edith Cowan University conducted a survey of women with no children in Australia, specifically looking at why they chose not to have children. Here are highlights of what she found: Continue reading “Recent Research on Childlessness in Australia”

How Researchers and Media Feed Pronatalist Thinking

Danish researchers recently did a study on mortality rates of those with and without children.   What did they find? As The Atlantic article indicates, that  “While unable to prove causation, the authors concluded that mortality rates are higher in people who don’t have children.”

When we take a closer look at this conclusion and the media’s report on it, we see slices of pronatalism at work.  Continue reading “How Researchers and Media Feed Pronatalist Thinking”

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Unintentional Insults on the Childless and Childfree

On the heels of being interviewed for an upcoming article on the topic of what not to say to childfree friends (and why), I saw this article by blogger Nicole Ciomelc about one of the worst bingoes the childfree and childless in particular can get.  It puts a spotlight on how the childfree and the childless have the experience of unintentional insults in common… Continue reading “Unintentional Insults on the Childless and Childfree”

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Think Parent/Childfree Friendships Can Have Their Challenges? Check Out Fertility Jealousy

As many childfree and parents know,  there is an art to friendships where one person has children and the other does not-by choice.  These friendships all too often have their challenges.  But what about friendships in which one person is having no problem having kids, and the other … Continue reading “Think Parent/Childfree Friendships Can Have Their Challenges? Check Out Fertility Jealousy”

The Age of First Motherhood is Rising, But Why at 50+?

I think the better question is, Why is the “baby-having drive” of some people at midlife so strong?  Part of the answer is related to a quote early in the article; 54 year old John says to 47 year old Ann: “You have the body of a young girl. You need a baby.” First, a few numbers… Continue reading “The Age of First Motherhood is Rising, But Why at 50+?”