Giving Thanks For the Childfree Life

We talk about the challenges of being childfree a lot here, but at this time of year, let’s talk about what is great about having chosen not to have children–when it comes to the childfree life, what is on your list to be thankful for? I’ll start. Continue reading “Giving Thanks For the Childfree Life”

Post Interview Musings on Intentional Teen Pregnancy

My interview with Kristen Grieco Elworthy about her Gloucester-18 documentary has made me think a lot more about intentional teen pregnancy. Unintended teen pregnancy is bad enough; but Kristen’s stat that about 1 in 5 teen pregnancies are intentional is equally concerning. Where to start to address it? Here’s my take. Continue reading “Post Interview Musings on Intentional Teen Pregnancy”

Reporting Back: The September 2011 On-the-Ground Question

The September On-the-Ground Question was: What legacies have you seen the childfree leave? What legacy would you like to leave? Here’s what people said, and a tee up to the October question:

Have a post script on the topic of legacies? Write it in!

Do The Childfree Have a Distinct Wanderlust?

Any childfree person should know about sociologist Jean Veevers. She was a pioneer in the study of the childfree, or “voluntary childlessness” as it was called back then. Even in the 70s, she was writing about how the voluntary childless was a “neglected area of study.” Check out some of what she did find in her research.  Continue reading “Do The Childfree Have a Distinct Wanderlust?”

Grilling the Childfree: What if the Tables Were Turned?

As the childfree know, we often get asked some amazing questions or comments from others. It’s been awhile, but I got one the other day–related to the one about “meaning in life.”

She said she didn’t really find what meaning in life meant to her until she had a kid–she then asks me… Continue reading “Grilling the Childfree: What if the Tables Were Turned?”

One Wise 100 Year Old Man

I am sure you’ve all seen pieces on the lives of some of the oldest people on the planet.  They are generally asked, “What are the secrets to a long and healthy life?” Well, Dr. Ephraim, a rheumatologist, recently did the same for the San Francisco Chronicle on his 100th birthday.  For the first time that I have ever seen, what do you think was on the list? Continue reading “One Wise 100 Year Old Man”

A Psychological Phenom for Happy Parents..and the Childfree?

Wray Herbert, author of On Second Thought: Outsmarting Your Mind’s Hard-Wired Habits, has an interesting explanation why even though “study after study has shown that parents, compared to adults without kids experience lower emotional well-being, have unhappier marriages and suffer more from depression, that they insist that..a life without children is a life unfulfilled.” The phenom at work? Continue reading “A Psychological Phenom for Happy Parents..and the Childfree?”

The Power of Candor & Realism: Happier Parents and More Childfree?

Rufus Griscom and Alisa Volkman, parents and creators of the parenting site,, have an interesting talk on TED about the taboos of parenting. The talk about four parenting taboos: Continue reading “The Power of Candor & Realism: Happier Parents and More Childfree?”

The Childfree Went Mainstream in 2010–Really?

Lisa Hymas of Grist did a recent piece on how having no children by choice went mainstream in 2010–as much as I’d like to,  I can’t agree with her. Sure, Oprah in her recent interview with Barbara Walters finally talked a bit more than in the past about her choice not to have kids. Sure, some other Hollywood types have spoken to it… Continue reading “The Childfree Went Mainstream in 2010–Really?”

Laura Carroll, Childfree Choice

On the Psychology of Desire for Kids – and Not

There’s been some ink out there of late on how not having kids is the greenest thing a person can do to help the planet. Less do we read how those who really want to do the green thing deal with also really wanting kids.  Writer and ecological advocate Shannon Hayes talks about her road to stopping at two kids, and her story illustrates two key points about how and why we decide to have kids or not. Continue reading “On the Psychology of Desire for Kids – and Not”