Have an idea for a nonfiction book? Will it require interviewing a lot of certain types of people? Interviewing people may not sound that difficult, but there is a real art to conducting them effectively. Rebecca Skloot (pictured), author of The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks … Continue reading “Writing Nonfiction: Tips on Conducting Research Interviews”
As I discuss in The Baby Matrix, since the year 2000 more research has been conducted on those with no children than ever before. Studies have been conducted in many countries in a variety of areas. One area in which there has been a good deal of research involves one’s the elder years. Here are some interesting research highlights: Continue reading “Having No Children in Later Years: Highlights of Recent Research”
Sociology researcher Brian Powell has done some very interesting research about how today’s Americans define family. Results in the book Counted Out examine how men and women of different ages, races, religions, and socioeconomic backgrounds view what constitutes a “family” and what doesn’t.
It looks at married and unmarried couples, heterosexual and same-sex couples, and couples with kids and without. On the kid/no kid front, of course my opinion is inherent in the title of my book, Families of Two! And the childfree agree. But what does the general population think? Continue reading “Are Families of Two a Family? Where Americans Stand”
There remains the popular stereotype that the childfree must not like kids, and because we choose not to raise children we don’t want them to play a role in our lives. This is just not true for so many people who don’t have kids by choice. As associate professor and sociology department chair at the University of Maine Amy Blackstone writes in her piece… Continue reading “On the Advantages the Childfree Have For Parents and Kids”
In his recent op-ed in The New York Times, political and cultural commentator David Brooks writes we’re in an “age of possibility” – one in which more people are “intolerant of any arrangement that might close off their personal options” and go “through adulthood perpetually trying to keep their options open.” He thinks that the age of possibility is based on the misconception that people are “better off when they are given maximum personal freedom to do what they want.” We’re better off when we have things in our lives that “transcend personal choice.” Indeed, we experience more meaning in life when… Continue reading “Pronatalist Assumptions in an Age of Possibility”
Nadia Taha wrote an excellent essay recently in the “Your Money” section of the The New York Times. She is in her late 20s, and she and her husband are like many couples – they want to buy a house, have savings, and comfortable retirement years. They’ve decided they don’t want children. Why? They see it as the “single decision” that can best help them… Continue reading “What Is One Single Decision to Reaching Long-term Financial Goals? The Childfree Life”
First, let me say I am a fan of David Brooks’ political commentary. But I can’t always say this about his thinking on sociological issues. Take his recent op-ed, “The Age of Possibility” in The New York Times. You’ll see that he needs to expand his thinking about people who don’t have kids …and singles as well. Continue reading “David Brooks and Outmoded Thinking About Singles and the Childfree”
The October issue of Women’s Health Magazine has an article by Carrie Anton that takes a clever angle on what to expect from others in reaction to the childfree choice. It’s titled, “What to Expect When You’re Not Expecting.” I’d say to aptly reflect being childfree it should be… Continue reading “What to Expect When You’ll Never Be Expecting”
When it comes to how not wanting kids is seen in our society, we’ve come a long way from just a decade ago. At that time, there were some scholarly studies on “voluntary childlessness,” a few books out on the topic, and rarely did we see it covered in the media.
However, when I began my search for childfree couples to interview for Families of Two I quickly learned there were lots of childfree and childfree couples out there. When I advertised for interview participants, overnight my email inbox and voicemail burst full of messages from couples who were thrilled that, as one woman put it, “finally someone wants to hear from us.” At that time, so many childfree couples I talked with felt they lived in the tributaries of society. Continue reading “Why Not Wanting Kids is Hard For Society to Totally Accept”