Childfree and Parent-to-be Friendships

There’s a good deal of talk about how the childfree often lose friends when kids come on the scene, or at least about how the friendships change.  Here’s a woman who asks the friendship question from the perspective of the parent-to-be: “How can I keep my childfree friends in my life when I decide to have a child?”  My answer: Continue reading “Childfree and Parent-to-be Friendships”

Another 99% and 1%: This time related to Contraception

Cecile Richards, President, Planned Parenthood Action Fund recently talked about “The Other 99%” in her post about forces going after restricting access to birth control. Fact: “99% of women in the U.S. who have been sexually active have used birth control. It’s used by women of every demographic, every geographic location, every income level — and every religious group.” She asks, “So does it sound crazy that a small group of religious leaders and tea-party Republicans are fighting to eliminate women’s access to birth control? Crazy but true… Continue reading “Another 99% and 1%: This time related to Contraception”

Do the Childfree Have Chore Wars?

Time magazine recently did an interesting article on the latest on married couples’  “chore wars.”   The gist: for couples with and without children, there is more of a domestic chore balance than ever before.  Why?  Research from the Pew Research Center point to the reason that … Continue reading “Do the Childfree Have Chore Wars?”

Are the ‘Childless’ Really More Likely to Divorce?

You may have seen more articles popping up lately on how “childless” couples are more likely to divorce.  How it’s treated as a “statistical reality”  needs to be challenged and clarified. Let’s start with some of the more “popular” data… Continue reading “Are the ‘Childless’ Really More Likely to Divorce?”

Happy Non-Parents Day! And Reporting Back: July 2011 On-the-Ground Question

Today is Non-Parents Day, as deemed by the National Alliance for Optional Parenthood years ago.  Spread the Word!  Check out my previous post and join many childfree on this day by writing 60 Minutes!

Reporting back on the July On-the-Ground Question–it was: Are you childfree when you don’t want kids of your own, but have step kids? Here’s what you said, and a tee up to the August question:

Caplan and I Go Another Round on WSJ

Well, Bryan Caplan responded to my piece,“With Kids, Easier Doesn’t Make It Right,” which is in response to his, “Twin Lessons: Have More Kids. Pay Less Attention to Them.”  See what you think. asked me to go another round and respond to the response. Check it out! There is also a summary of the debate including views by Will Wilkinson of The Economist. Bravo to all who have commented so far…Inclined to weigh in and comment? Do it! I’ll say it again, this is a great opportunity to productively speak out to inform and educate~

Go Ahead – Have More Kids? My WSJ Counter

The asked me to respond to Bryan Caplan’s piece, “Twin Lessons: Have More Kids. Pay Less Attention to Them.”  He has a new book out, Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids. Even the title gets me going!

Now, he does discuss some interesting research about parenting, but takes it too far which I lay out my response piece , “With Kids, Easier Doesn’t Mean It’s Right.”


It’s the WSJ, so as you might imagine, they “steered” me a bit, and requested I not rant about the environmental impacts of promoting the idea “parenting can be easier than you think so have as many kids as you want!”

No problem…lots more to say to counter his ideas. Check it out. Thanks to all who have commented so far, and I encourage others to do so as well at  It’s a great chance to inform and educate!

Reporting Back: February 2011 On-the-Ground Question

Last month’s On-the-Ground question was: What stories/wisdom do you have about finding childfree people to date? Check out what people said:

Here is the March question: Think across all kinds of media – television, film, print and digital, even radio- What, in your opinion, is the most powerful example of how the media promotes, even glorifies pregnancy and parenthood? Give me your views!

Finding Childfree Singles to Date: Start with Meeting of Literary Minds?

Thanks to all who have written in so far on this month’s On-the-Ground question about their experience with childfree dating.  Some great stories and unique ideas coming in~keep ’em coming–Will report back at the end of the month! One idea relates to singles in general–get involved in groups or organizations that are up to things you are interested in to meet like minds.  Here is an example of this I came across that’s combined with speed dating:

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Reporting Back:January 2011 On-the-Ground Question

The January question: What childfree and related topics would you like to learn more about and discuss on this blog in 2011?

Check out what people said:

The February question:

Childfree dating: What stories and wisdom do you have about finding childfree people to date?