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Vicki Larson & I Talk Childfree “Gray Divorce”

As Vicki Larson, author of The New “I Do”, was reading Avivah Wittenberg-Cox’s Late Love: Mating in Maturity, she noticed that when the author talks about her “gray divorce” – her divorce after 22 years of marriage, “one thing kept coming up” as a good time to start anew. Her children had left home or were about to, and “she talks as if that’s the scenario for all 50-somethings.” Continue reading “Vicki Larson & I Talk Childfree “Gray Divorce””

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The Childfree, Childless & Guilt

Reading “Let’s hear it for the single, childless women: We get tired too,” by Mika Sarmiento got me thinking, especially when she writes about a “specific kind of guilt that comes with talking about sleepless nights and long days with said great wives and mothers.” What’s behind this particular kind of guilt? Continue reading “The Childfree, Childless & Guilt”

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On Childfree Sterilization: Shifting from Paternalism to Reproductive Autonomy

I sure like seeing more pieces out there these days on childfree sterilization in popular women’s publications. A recent piece in SELF on this topic deserves mention. After Deputy Editor Nina Bahadur relays a few women’s frustrating experiences and describes what male and female sterilization procedures involve, she gets into the ethical issues that need more talking about. Continue reading “On Childfree Sterilization: Shifting from Paternalism to Reproductive Autonomy”

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Childfree Love: Making Every Day Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day brings to mind one of the many bennies of being in a childfree relationship: because the childfree don’t have kids, they have more time to devote to their relationships. Continue reading “Childfree Love: Making Every Day Valentine’s Day”

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A Global Look at Not Having Children

At the beginning of January, some interesting ‘not having children’ numbers came out regarding women in their 40s.  This Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) table gives a succinct summary:  Continue reading “A Global Look at Not Having Children”

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Looking Back: 2017 Childfree Trending Part II

Now for Part II of childfree trends we have seen this past year. In addition to muddied use of “Childfree,” “Child-free” “Child free “and “Childless” I wrote about in Part I, five more childfree trends are worth noting: Continue reading “Looking Back: 2017 Childfree Trending Part II”

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Looking Back: 2017 Childfree Trending Part I

At the beginning of 2016, I took stock of 40+ years of talking about the childfree choice. At the end of 2016, I looked back and discussed positive childfree trends that year. It’s time for childfree trending 2017…this year I’ll do childfree trending in two parts. Here’s Part I: Continue reading “Looking Back: 2017 Childfree Trending Part I”

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Riffing on Childfree Lilli Blackmore’s, “Why Having Kids Is Not A Retirement Plan”

I have been enjoying Lilli Blackmore’s posts on her site, the American Spinster. Her most recent post, “Why Having Kids Is Not a Retirement Plan” inspires me to riff on this important topic. Please indulge me. Continue reading “Riffing on Childfree Lilli Blackmore’s, “Why Having Kids Is Not A Retirement Plan””