After nearly 30 years as a marriage counselor, Gary Chapman has found that impasses in relationships usually boil down to the fact that the two people in it are not speaking the same language. Have I experienced that! Based on our temperament and background, Chapman says we all have a language (or two) through which we express love, and express the need for love. But if we are doing so in one set of languages, and our partner in another, we may think we are communicating when in fact we aren’t. The 5 Love Languages walks couples through the process of learning how to identify their own “love language” and that of their partner, and how to use that knowledge to establish common ground and lasting intimacy. A great tool for success in relationships.