Amrita Nandy

Amrita Nandy, Ph.D.

Pronatalism at Work in India: Amrita Nandy on the Fear of Life Without Children

 A few months ago I did a Q&A with New Delhi-based researcher, activist and journalist Amrita Nandy on her paper, “Outliers of Motherhood.”  A few days ago she had a great piece post in The Wire – so good, with her permission, here it is: Continue reading “Pronatalism at Work in India: Amrita Nandy on the Fear of Life Without Children”

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The Baby Matrix in College Coursework: Latest Q&A with Professor Kimya Dennis

Earlier this year I had the pleasure of interviewing Kimya Dennis, Assistant Professor at Salem College, who was teaching the sociology course, The Childfree, for the second time and was using my book, The Baby Matrix, as part of the curriculum. As she did last year, Kimya graciously answered a few questions after the course was finished:

You created The Childfree course, and this is the second time you have taught the course. How do you think this course has contributed to discourse regarding The Baby Matrix, pronatalism, and reproductive rights?

This course gives students more access to readings like The Baby Matrix, Aralyn Hughes’ Kid Me Not, and many peer-reviewed journal articles about the childfree, childless, and overall reproductive rights. It also includes work from sociologist Amy Blackstone and the werenothavingababy website, as well as your online Families of Two: Childfree and Beyond and websites.

It is not surprising that most people have never heard of overall freedom to consciously consider if (not just “when”) they want to have children, let alone read books, journal articles, and websites. It is also not surprising most college students, across academic institutions, have never heard of this freedom and have never read the increasing amount of material on this topic.

I am still saddened when I encounter students who have been taught, and firmly believe, that they are required to have children to prove adulthood, womanhood, racial-ethnic-cultural womanhood, and/or faith-spirituality-religion. I toll the delicate line between encouraging liberation and choice and respect for culture and different lifestyles.

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Kimya Dennis, Ph.D.

The second time teaching this course was quite liberating as a professor. I was less antsy about addressing certain topics and my students (who I call “scholars”) were quite open to sharing their opinions, reading materials, and having a give-and-take learning environment.  This environment included talking about sex education and discussing “college sex education” that can debunk certain myths and exaggerations about biological sex, gender identities, sexuality, our bodies, sexual pleasure for people who seek such pleasure, and reproduction. We also had Planned Parenthood visit for a wonderful discussion of the history and contemporary necessity of Planned Parenthood.  Anyone who knows me knows I am a strong supporter of Planned Parenthood and want access to these types of health resources across socioeconomic status and across race, ethnicity, and culture.

We also discussed cultural variations in The Baby Matrix and the ways in which pronatalism and definitions of “family” vary across cultures. Variations include race and ethnicity, gender identity, sexual identity, sexuality, physical-mental health, and religion-spirituality-meditation. For most cultures adulthood, manhood, and especially womanhood are narrowly defined by having children (most often biological rather than adopted) in an overwhelmingly patriarchal, gender disparate, heterocentric, and heteronormative environment.

When such environments are challenged there is often anger and outrage. I appreciate being able to engage in open discussions of reproductive freedoms, birth controls, sterilization by choice, and overall choices that defy certain narrow categorizations of humans. These narrow categorizations of humans are a result of inequalities on the basis of power and the tendency for humans to require things to fit into characteristics and categories. And, rather than characteristics and categories being able to equally coexist, they are compared and ranked.

How has The Childfree course shaped your perspectives as a sociologist?

This course adds to my knowledge as a sociologist, shapes my teaching, and illustrates a diversity of experiences and opinions. Sociologically, it is important to be reasonably informed about research and news stories. It is also important to talk to people, face to face and eye to eye, to understand what people are experiencing and expressing. This helps me become a better sociologist and also a better person. There is give-and-take in this. This is not a one sided learning environment because college students have a range of experiences and beliefs that should not be silenced. They contribute greatly to my classrooms and learning environments.

When discussing reproductive freedoms people in some cultures pretend these topics are “common sense” as though freedoms and choices are widely known and widely accepted.  This is when I remind people that this is not common knowledge and it is not commonly accepted. I also want people to use their wider lens and take off the rose colored glasses to see what is experienced by other individuals and other groups of people. All of this shapes my experiences and knowledge as a sociologist.

How has The Childfree course shaped your perspectives as a childfree person?

This course makes me even more definitive and vocal about reproductive freedoms and my decision to be childfree. I am also more confident and adamant about not needing to explain why I am childfree. I appreciate being able to respond to the question “why” with “because I did not and do not want to have children.” The simplicity in that answer often shocks people because they anticipated a long explanation. I explain to students that my short answer is important because the number one rule to having children is for children to be wanted.

Yes, people should have the mental, emotional, physical, and financial means to provide for children.  But, even with overall perfect life circumstances, the desire to have children should be present if children are to be loved and kept safe. After I get students to understand that childfree people are under no obligation to explain, just like most parents and aspiring parents do not explain their decision to other people (and perhaps not even to themselves), I then provide varying reasons for why having children is not of interest to myself and to some other childfree people. This is where students enjoy reading articles, websites, and watching videos about the childfree.

This course gives me a platform to discuss being childfree and talk to a group of people who are interested in the topic. Some people have never known someone who is childfree or never knew having children is optional rather than required. I am very appreciative to have opportunities to engage in these discussions.


Thank you, Kimya!

How I admire her trailblazing scholarly endeavors!


The Childfree

Professor Kimya Dennis on her College Course, The Childfree

Last year I had the pleasure of interviewing Kimya Dennis, Assistant Professor at Salem College, who was teaching the sociology course, The Childfree, for the first time, and was using my book, The Baby Matrix, as part of the curriculum. She is now in the midst of teaching this course for the second time, and graciously let me ask about how it is going. Check it out: Continue reading “Professor Kimya Dennis on her College Course, The Childfree”


Lawrence Krauss

The Connection Between Humanism & The Baby Matrix

Have you heard of Humanism? Upon reading the Nov/Dec 2015 edition of The Humanist published by the American Humanist Association, I learned a lot about the tenets of Humanism. In this edition, I was particularly moved by the article adapted from the 2015 Humanist of the Year award acceptance speech by theoretical physicist, Lawrence Krauss. Continue reading “The Connection Between Humanism & The Baby Matrix”

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Where Are We, After 40+ Years of Talking About the Childfree Choice?

As 2015 came to a close, it marked another year of talking about the childfree choice  Let’s take stock. In the big picture, we’ve seen an ascent of talk about this choice in the public sphere since the 70s. That’s over four decades. Where are we after 40+ years of talking about the childfree choice? Let’s start with a quick broad stroke look back in time: Continue reading “Where Are We, After 40+ Years of Talking About the Childfree Choice?”

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The 1st Conference of its Kind: The Not Mom Summit 2015

A first-ever conference is happening this Friday and Saturday: The Not Mom Summit. Spearheaded by Karen Malone Wright who runs the site The Not Mom, it is the first time women without children by choice, chance or circumstance will gather for presentations, discussions, and connection. I am excited to be part of it!

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Getting Beyond Pronatalist Thinking in Our Later Years

In this Huffington Post piece, “Who Will Care for Us – the Aging, Childless and Single Population?” aging advocate Carol Marak writes, “Since adult children are the lifeblood of elder care, and I don’t have a child, it’s a concern for me.” Her comment brought to mind the pronatalist assumption I discuss in The Baby Matrix: “My children will be there for me when I am old.” How true is it?  Continue reading “Getting Beyond Pronatalist Thinking in Our Later Years”

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July 11 is World Population Day

World Population Day is coming up; it’s an annual event observed on July 11, and seeks to raise awareness of global population issues. The event was established by the Governing Council of the United Nations Development Programme in 1989. It was inspired by the public interest in Five Billion Day on July 11, 1987, approximately the date on which the world’s population reached five billion people.”  The Population Clock shows the world population increases in real time-the last I looked it was: Continue reading “July 11 is World Population Day”


Will the Pope Talk Overpopulation & I=PAT?

As I am sure you have seen in the media, the Pope’s “papal encyclical” is due out tomorrow. As CNN explains, “Derived from the Greek word for ‘circle,’ a papal encyclical is a letter from the pope to Catholic clergy and laypeople around the world.” This one though, he hopes “will reach a wider audience, including world leaders meeting for several key environmental summits this year.” It is supposed to be the “first to focus exclusively on ‘creation care,’ the Christian idea that God gave humans the Earth to cultivate, not conquer.”  Continue reading “Will the Pope Talk Overpopulation & I=PAT?”